/ttcafterloss TTC Daily Discussion Thread - June 15, 2017

I'm a little bit sad to read this. I found your comment constructive, but the judgement you seem to have passed is disgusting. If any sort of empathy hinges on the details of the morality of my relationship, then by all means, delve into the details as you please. My fiance has been separated for quite awhile and we are at the point where the divorce is being finalized the last week in July. The road to divorce was long and drawn out, and he created a serious rift in his very traditional family by leaving his financially co-dependent ex-wife. We decided to not put our lives on hold during the divorce, as the ex made it clear she was going to drag things out for spite alone. I realize the internet is a freaky place but I would never use a pregnancy as a trap. We always dreamed we would have a wonderful life and a baby when it was all over. We were overjoyed when we got pregnant, although it was not the ideal situation for us back while going through the court proceedings. Our miscarriage was devastating. Frankly, I don't care if a stranger on the internet thinks my morals are bad because I decided to date a man that was separated. Our loss was just as painful as any conventional couple. You want to split hairs and tell me my pain isn't real, then fine, whatever makes you happy. He was the best father when we thought we were going to be parents. And he's still the best partner, fiance, and future father of my children. I miss our daughter every day, and this particular thread has been extremely supportive so far in our journey after miscarriage. Every part of it has been tough, and even moreso now that we are on our own and lack support. As I understand it, that is what this place is for. I think your "bullshit" radar is presumptuous and in poor taste to the loving purpose of this public forum. That's as nice a response I can muster as a woman responding to a stranger who is suggesting that my miscarriage and TTC journey is built on deception.

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