Type 5s: do you get along with 1s? Which types do you feel have the most natural tension?

Hmm I agree about 4s, I had a really close friend who was a 4 and we bonded immediately because we were both kind of crazy, silly and irreverent at that time, and for a little bit I thought I was in love with her because we got along so well and no one had ever been so honest to me about their emotions and I found it so fascinating. I wanted to take care of her. But then it became endless and even as we grew apart she continued to use me for emotional support and tell me about all these experiences of hers in which she was the “victim” and consoling/validating her constantly became part of our dynamic. We could never have been in a romantic relationship and I think I couldn’t be with any 4 really, but in general I am drawn to them because I enjoy weirdness.

Even though I am annoyed by 3s’ superficiality sometimes, if they occasionally acknowledge that they are being fake I’m fine with it and actually admire them for pursuing something so actively that can reap obvious benefits.

Ive experienced a lot of people in “alternative lifestyles” where I live, who call people who dress in mainstream ways “normies” and that pisses me off so much. Because they are often way more wrapped up in their own appearance/projecting a certain type of look than the supposed fake normies are, but won’t admit that it’s not authentic. I think lack of self awareness or lack of objective perspective in general is what I relate to the least.

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