UGH

so we could both go in peace without any bad blood between us, but if that seems creepy

I’m not the person who you’re replying to, but I agree with them as someone who has had to block someone, which I don’t do lightly. When someone has gone so far as to block you, it’s is creepy for someone to attempt to circumvent that because it is reinforcing that you still don’t repect/care about their boundaries.

There aren’t really any words you can say in the immediate aftermath that will get you to the mutual “go in peace without bad blood” stage (it’s kind of how the myth of “closure” drives people to unfair lengths). However well-intentioned, it always comes across as manipulative bc people make empty apologies all the time to get what they want right now (resumed contact, absolved guilt, the last word etc).

/r/datingoverthirty Thread Parent