Not only would people stop lying to themselves if they accepted their unattractiveness; they would no longer have to wonder “what am I doing wrong?” when they find that others don’t view them how they view themselves.

Honestly, I agree with this here. For the longest time after a divorce, I had myself convinced that I was unattractive(considering my ex never found me attractive) for awhile then tried changing things around. I spent over an hour after a shower taking care of things like trimming, moisturizing and going out getting fancy haircuts, getting clothes properly fitted.. After all that none of it helped aid in successful attempts at getting a date. I had to come to the realization that I was just not attractive. It is a sad realization though to be honest. You want to believe that anything you really try at you can accomplish, but this is just not one of those things, unfortunately. I still do take great care of myself though cause it sort of formed a habit I don't want to break. It feels great to take care of my body & hair so that's definitely been a plus to my original attempts.