Unconventionality in beliefs, views, interests, lifestyle, and way of thinking

I've been having a similar problem. If I recall correctly, ~30%, 60%, or 50% of marriages end in divorce. Sure, a lot of that can be explained by mental health, but it makes me wonder:

Is there some way we can more objectively determine whether someone is a good match for us in a long-term relationship?

Gut feelings/instinct and emotions are helpful, but they're a very poor tool for long-term investments. Also, at best, we can prognosticate 3 years into the future. I think it's impractical to take everything into account, but I DO think there may be a better way to go about long-term relationships than what we're doing. 80000hours.org has actually constructed a career guide in this way.

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