Thanks for sharing your story so generously, it was really interesting to read about your experiences. It's really impressive how you grew up in those difficult circumstances but managed to just totally change things around for yourself. It sounds like you suffered some benign neglect at home on top of what must have been chronically stressful racism at school. I can't imagine how tough that must have been - you're an inspiring success story for those among the younger hapas here who are struggling today.

I'm glad to hear your dad is a successful, smart guy - it must be alienating for him sometimes being neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. He's lucky to have you understanding him. It's lovely that he is good with babies and kids, maybe he will be very helpful babysitting grandkids in the future :) I read somewhere that ASD traits can become more pronounced as people get older (though I'm not a professional), it could possibly be why you've noticed these things more over recent years.

Re your ex-gf - ASD manifests quite differently in females, it can be much subtler. There are some great articles now like on The Guardian, as awareness about the female version is only really just coming into public consciousness. I enjoyed watching 'The Queen's Gambit' on Netflix and thought the protagonist was a positive and inspiring representation of female ASD.

Re WMAF - that's interesting and something I've heard before from others in the past. I wonder if people saying "they couldn't find someone so chose an Asian wife" is a bit of a debilitating narrative for hapas though, and is it really true? I think on the other side, when it comes to settling down for marriage, many women want a "family man" rather than a suave playboy. Men with ASD tend to be honest, straightforward types, and I think that sense of stability draws in some women that (subconsciously or consciously) want to feel secure. I have some other thoughts on this but it's really all conjecture. Thanks again for generously sharing your story and I hope you continue to go from strength to strength!