This is one of the harder dilemmas I've seen here. First, I'm sorry for what you've had to go through. You didn't deserve to have any of that put on you, let alone the abuse. Second, I don't know how you could end that situation without your husband canceling the things they use that are in his name. They'd have to find somewhere else to go and someone else's name and social security number to live under, but I don't think you should have to take care of them indefinitely just because they don't currently have another option. I think if I were in that situation, I would cancel everything and go NC all at once, ideally while moving somewhere new so that they can't show up on your doorstep. I'm not saying it's right or best thing to do -- I honestly don't know -- but it's what I'd probably do. If they have any other family or friends in the country, I feel confident they'd find a way to make do, but if not, your mom has talked about moving back to the old country to spite you for years anyway. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I can only imagine how hard it must be. You're a good and kind person, and I hope someone more knowledgeable than me on this topic has some helpful advice.