huge hugs to you, OP. It sounds like you're scared instability, and this situation is provoking a similar response. knowing something about that, I'm giving you a hug. And, it's true, this can be an innocuous "that's love" scenario, or, a warning:
so. follow your heart, if your mind feels muddled. If you feel like youre fixating, and it feels unwholseome, that's very different than premptively shutting (potentially) the right one out. do you have a parent or good friend to talk to? if not, PM me anytime. So:
if those are mostly YES and not no, you have to bet on LOVE, because you have to believe in LOVE. it's like the stock market, you can win infinite %, but only lose 100%.