I unknowingly raped my ex.

It's not that OP, mentally I'm about as scarred a person can get. I've got ptsd depression and anxiety. I know what fear is. And the fight or flight. I fight. It's hard for me to understand other people, especially those who claim to be victims, why their fight didn't kick in. I've been fighting off grown men since I was a kid, whether the advances were sexual or just plain violent so when someone tells me they couldn't react it earns no sympathy from me. Also if she were truly a victim shed have never seen your face again if it affected her that bad. No that was her fight coming out being spiteful. So to me the bdsm situation you did with her, really just hurt her pride or whatever emotion and she got angry and embarrassed and decided to torment you as her revenge. Also, since she's such a rape victim and so angry with you, why aren't you in jail and registered. Doesn't make sense to me again. Take away from this OP is next time you find a partner make 100% sure consent is there at all stages.

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