Unpopular opinion: I don't have PPD/A. I have 0 help.

I am a SAHM and my husband is a doctor. We have two kids, 18ish months apart. Even with me being a SAHM, my husband still helped with overnights, cleaning, chores, childcare in general.

Our oldest is a terrible sleeper, in his first 9 months of life, he only slept 45 minutes at a time and because we weren't formula fed, we just broke nights. So my husband took weekends, I took weekdays.

My husband still makes time to watch the kids so I can exercise and take a bubble bath. I still make time for him to do the same.

Now the kids are older and he still does a lot around the house and a lot of childcare even though he works and I don't. The only thing he doesn't do is cook but that's because I enjoy cooking and he's a mediocre cook!! Haha. He makes simple breakfasts, lunch and dinners, but I like variety a bit more than him.

A lot of men fail to step up, but plenty do. I think a lot of men are used to getting their way, especially in relationships. Women cater to them so why should that change when a baby comes?! They assume the dynamic of their woman doing everything wouldn't change, but of course it should change after a baby!! My best friend is like this. She has always done everything for him. Cook, clean, dishes, picking up his dirty laundry to put in the hamper. She already had a full-time job caring for him, now add in a baby and it's a disaster.

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