My now ex wife is dealing with this.

I like curvy women, she got obese. I loved her regardless. Most dudes just see a fat chick. Good luck to her. I have no issues finding dates. Hell, I have a harder time not having every woman I date not falling in love with me after a few dates because I'm like their fucking life preserver out in the middle of the ocean (as my counselor puts it).

I don't expect to find anyone I will settle on again honestly. I broke up with my gf I had for a while because she's sweet but has way too many fucking issues to deal with. We're still friends and she's still in love, but that's her issue because I've been honest from the start.

I mean just a few months in her jealousy started coming out, insecurities, all the fucking red flags once her guard started to come down. She's in counseling but when I point things out she doesn't think they're issues, well they're fucking issues to me. I put up with way too much bullshit from my exes. Never again.

I don't expect perfection but I do expect you to be good with yourself. I'm not fucking saving a woman ever again, because all they've done is drown me with them.