Look. He is a predator. I know there are plenty of people on here doing the ole victim blaming thing, which of course isnt helpful. The fact of the matter is he is a predator. He is going to keep doing this until you stand up to him, and bring all the resources against him. This means you have to deal with Cognitive Dissonance and Trauma Bonds clearly at play. Its a bizzare thing, but very real and quite powerful. First things first. You are not exaggerating what is happening. You are protecting him. Somewhere in your head you are saying he isnt that bad, he really doesnt mean it, he loves me. The fact is none of those things are true. The person you thought you cared about never even existed. He focused in on your openess, the fact that you are a people pleaser, and sought out your buttons. He used this information to devalue you, manipulate you, scare you. The truth of the matter? He will escalate the violence until he kills you or ruins your life. You take every option available to you. Order of protection. Call blocking on your phone, facebook, reset the internet (call the carrier) and lock him out. Never trust that "friend". And beware, he is going to do everything he can to make you look "irrational and crazy and unable to let him go". He will lie, he will do anything he can. The fact of the matter is he hates you. He has nothing but contempt for you. To him, you are a door knob, a pair of shoes. Your only purpose is to do what he says and give him whatever you have. You are not worthless, you are not weak, you are not a coward. Stand up. Hit him with everything you have. Fight for your life. You may not believe thats what this is, but it is. Dont tell yourself its really not that bad. Do you want your parents to get the call that their daughter was killed by an "unknown" assailant? You wont avoid this just by wishing it away. It happens every single day. 1 in 4 women have this happen to them. Think about that. And yes, I am very knowledgeable about this subject. Very very educated. Fight for your life. You do matter. You are worth it. He, however, is not.