UPDATE 2: My (14f) dad and half-siblings are not allowed to speak to me because I am the product of his affair. It hurts & and is effecting my self esteem. Now my "stepmom" wrote me a nasty letter telling me to stay a way from her family.

Your step mom is out of the picture.

Be the best to your half siblings. If they want to visit you, have them come to you, and be the best sister you can be. Be the supportive sibling you would want for yourself. They are caught in this as well.

As to your dad. Hmm.

This is the thing that parents expect. They are willing to treat you like crap for decades, and when it comes to their deathbed, they expect you to forgive and forget so they can have their closure before they pass on.

Society has it that you should go and see them to get closure for yourself.

From my personal experience, it doesn't work that way. I was the black sheep, and ignored. Just like you. I was scapegoated for many many years.

One day I realized that it wasn't my fault. And after awhile, I realized that I didn't care. And after more time, I realized that they just weren't good people. And finally I realized that I just didn't feel anything for them at all. It's been more than 10 years and I don't feel anything at all.

And your dad needs to understand this. His 'new' kids will see this, and as soon as their mother completely loses it, they will come to you. It will drive their mother insane and your dad will be stuck with her. Your brothers and sisters will also reach the point where they don't care or feel anything anymore.

Whatever you do.

Do not respond or acknowledge bad behaviour. Just walk away from it.

Be a great sister. Keep a relationship with your siblings. If you want to talk with each other talk with each other. Your N Stepmom does not respect you, therefore you are not obligated to listen to anything she has to say.

DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THE N STEPMOM UNTILL SHE LEARNS TO RESPECT YOU.

Tell your father that if she wants to address you, she has to do it through him.

This is the exact situation as to if you were married and having problems with your inlaws, you just be a nice person and let your partner deal with his parents..

But yeah, let your dad know. If he doesn't care now, you're not going to care at the end.

You're 15. I know how important it is to have the approval of a parent at that age.

I'm telling you. Some people are just bad.

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