Thats fair, and wasn't what I was trying to do. I understand your point and get the sensitivity, but it is a shame that people cant see the parallel for what it is - not a link between the two, but saying "we've mainly, at least in this community, accepted that you're 'born this way' and can't change it even when forced to try in one instance, but completely ignore that aspect in another."

I even specifically detailed that yes, of course there's a reason one is OK and the other is not.

That said, sure, it could apply to any defining sexual preference, like being straight. As a straight man attracted to women, I would be hopelessly unable to live my entire life without ever acting on it if that was required of me, without outside help, and with extreme shame and possibly worse for even admitting that I was attracted to women.

Hell, straight porn with actors of legal age contributes to plenty of horrible shit on its own, and it's still a billion dollar business, plenty of straight people fully admit to just naturally and mindlessly finding their way back to viewing sexual content. Men especially aknowledge the trance like effect of testosterone fueled sex drive. Do they always make sure their favorite girl got into porn because she just really likes 10 man blowbangs? She's not drugged out of her mind, that her eyes rolling in her head isn't her going to a safe place while she waits for it to be over so she can get her next fix, or pay her "manager" what he says she owes?

Sorry, which sexual preference we're comparing is really not consequential to the point, I'm just annoyed by the over righteous bullshit in threads like this. People can't get past the anger and disgust to realize that identifying, understanding, and managing the inclination early, without such vitriolic judgement, would likely create better outcomes for all involved.

Just like there will always be people who harm others by twisting perfectly acceptable sexual attractions with rape, exploitation, etc... there will always be predators who dont care that its wromg and act on it anyways, and that should be punished appropriately, but treating the root of the problem and avoiding offense is always more effective than attempting to tell people to be ashamed, dont talk about it, and not let themselves act on it.

Anyways, I dont even know why I wrote all this, not like I expect much useful thought or discourse when most people will just say "this homophobic asshole is defending fucking pedos!".

Sorry to have offended, have a nice night.