UPDATE: I [22F] just found out my boyfriend [27M] has been having sex with me when I'm sleeping after I've taken sleeping pills.

No offense, but you really need to work on protecting yourself and being more self-aware.

You didn't have to report him for rape, no one is forcing you to. It's fine that you made your own decision.

BUT, you mentioned that "if your brother wasn't there you would have dropped it".

Or that "your brother won't let you get back together with him".

Like, I'm glad you have such a great brother but he should not have to be your strongest advocate - YOU should be doing this yourself! YOU should be the one saying "we'll never get back together".

You shouldn't need him to make sure you don't become a victim.

I'm glad you're staying with your brother for now, but I hope you'll learn to value yourself and expect better from your relationships.

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