HEY GUESS WHAT EVERYBODY I'M THE VAIN, SELF-ABSORBED, COCKY ON SOCIAL MEDIA, BAT SHIT CRAZY GF OF THE OP. Did you really think I was too stupid to find this post?!
Let me first start out by saying that I really appreciate everyone's advice pretending like they know me and really analyzing my personality from this twisted one-sided tale. This whole sub-reddit is a bunch of bullshit stories where everyone just sympathizes with the OP. Can no one here extract what is reality and what is a fabricated distortion of words to make my ex feel better about himself?
First off, let me say that my ex purposefully did not mention what I do 'freelance,' which has everything to do with why I post so much to social media. I AM A FREELANCE MODEL. POSTING TO SOCIAL MEDIA IS PART OF MY JOB DESCRIPTION. IT'S HOW I GET FOLLOWERS, FANS, AND PAID GIGS. I am also a writer and a blogger so I post what I write.
I agree that I initially started posting to social media because of my career but it turned into an addiction (one that I have been actively trying to fix without it negatively impact my career). Every picture I add to instagram gets me more followers which leads to more opportunities. Facebook is the only social media I used to use before I became a model (and I rarely posted), but now it has absolutely no purpose career wise. I post modeling pictures to FB mainly so my mom and her friends can see my work (because they don't have instagram). Sometimes I post poems or fun/exciting things happening in my life, like when I'm excited about an opportunity to work with a famous designer. I hate that people post meaningless content to facebook like that they drank coffee for breakfast (WHO CARES?!), so I try to keep my content real (I guess you could call me a facebook vigilante). I do a lot of work with the homeless and I often post stories about community service, not to brag, but to remind people to take a break from their self-absorbed lives and do something for other people. Numerous people have messaged me that my posts are inspiring, and caused them to think about the world differently, motivated them to quit the job they hate, helped them feel not so alone when they were depressed. My bf makes it seem like everyone hates what I post, it's simply not true. Some of my posts get over 200 likes on facebook.
After feedback from my ex-bf that I was posting too much, I decided to stop posting as much to facebook and focus my energy on snapchat, by taking videos behind the scenes of my photoshoots. Snapchat became a fun side-hobby and is more mentally stimulating than modeling - turns out I really like making videos and lots of people like watching them!! People send me messages that they are obsessed with my snapchats and they really make their day (because I'm always doing funny/silly things and cracking people up). While facebook has no value for my career, hundreds of people watch my snapchat stories. It's a marketing tactic. You can become snapchat famous, just like you can become instagram famous.
Also, posting 20 times a day is a gross exaggeration, AT MOST I post 6 modeling pictures to instagram (usually 1-2 per day though), and 3 posts to facebook (some of which are modeling pictures, others not). I have been trying to cut down on posting but modeling does not satisfy me intellectually so I need to find another hobby to occupy my time (and now I have one!! I'm teaching myself how to sew so I can make my own clothes for photoshoots!!)
My ex-bf is too insecure about himself to share anything on social media. I used to be really insecure too because I had a horrible childhood and absent father who constantly criticized me (and still does to this day). 8 months ago I was suicidally depressed. I come from a family with a history of serious mental illness and most people in my family have attempted suicide (2 successes).
Now I've found confidence and I'm sharing that with the world. Insecurity is crippling. I agree that I'm slightly more vain, conceited, and cocky than the average person - but how could I be a model if I wasn't any of those things? I'd much rather be that than on the opposite end of the spectrum - wanting to kill myself because I think I'm no good and everyone hates me (which was previously the case).
My ex-bf is verbally abusive and criticizes me everyday. We broke up because he wants to change my personality. I am fun and independent (not co-dependent like he would like me to be). He is bitter by my popularity and that I'm more social/extroverted. He has always been jealous of me, that I am more likable, that I have more friends, that he doesn't know how to use social media, etc. He's insanely insecure. It's true I admit that I do like attention. Why else would I like modeling?
Anyway, #sorryimnotsorry for living. I think everyone on here should get a life and real friends to ask relationship questions. OP - you think my online personality is obnoxious?! Try finding a post online by your ex-bf saying how much you suck that made the front page of reddit, with 300 comments saying you're vain and insecure. So happy we're no longer together, what a toxic relationship!! I'm going to continue doing my thing, and loving myself, despite what anyone thinks.
I will leave you with a quote, which sums up why I post anything that's not a modeling picture:
We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans - because we can. We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings. That's why we paint, that's why we dare to love someone - because we have the impulse to explain who we are. -Maya Angelou