Your husband has “normalized” his reaction, so you immediately feel justified in knowing you should have held a medical condition from him? I respect that maybe he has a heavy emotional burden, but this isn’t how healthy relationships work. He needs his own help.

I feel however that because you feel that AITA got it “wrong” the first time, you aren’t going to heed the advice this time. Your husband will never improve without mental health help. That’s not how any of this works. He will continue to spiral and lash out at you and anything else that adds to his “weight”. I was this person myself once and I am only happy now because of therapy coping skills and medication.