As of now, I sit firmly in the camp that it's unfair for me to provide most of the resources and do most of the work. I don't need an exact 50/50 but I also need to not carry dead weight just because the dead weight is pretty.
It's not about control or power. I want a greater sense of equity and I see nothing wrong with that. I'm sure she'll make some other guy happy. But if I never interact with her romantically again at this point, I'm fine. There's other hobbies besides games I've put off for her for me to focus on.
It might be a happy accident, if her credit wasn't trash we might own a house together and all of this would be way harder.