[Update]Me [21F] with my boyfriend [23M] of five years, we're at an impasse over MIL[64F]'s behavior.

Girl, you're 21. You're so young! I'm 32 year old, I've been married for years with a couple of kids, and I never had to deal with anything like this with my husband. You come across as much older, and I applaud your maturity... BUT seriously, you deserve better than this.

You are 21! If you're not fibbing your age here, you should be having such a great time with all the cool guys out there with cool moms! My mother in law is seriously awesome, and we hang out, talk and have a great time. You deserve to have a good relationship without all this baggage. You don't need to attend couples counseling and feel "so weary." You deserve a guy who actually listens to your concerns and has your back, instead of fighting at every step with his mama drama.

My own mother was a very abusive and manipulative woman. I went no contact with her in my 20s, of my own accord. I get where your boyfriend is coming from, but what he's done to you, that's on him. That's not your fault. He shut you out for 5 years and didn't let you know his deep issues until therapy, so what, you'll be in therapy for the rest of your relationship? I don't see this as a solid foundation, and seriously girl, you are so young. I can't emphasize this enough. I dated some real flops when I was your age, too, and when I look back, I am just grateful I got out.

I would put up with that sort of thing when I was your age. Now, no way jose. This relationship ain't worth all this trouble. I know now that when it's right, it's right, and you don't need to have all these fights and drama and obnoxiousness. He's betrayed your trust, disrespected you, made you lose respect for him, and done so much damage that you're in couples counseling at 21. Not worth it. You can do better.

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