Wasn't sure if I should PM this, or keep it out in the open. Seeing as this is throwaway city, I'll just give everyone the satisfaction.

This story sounds freakishly close to my current situation. Except I'm the other guy.

I can guarantee something is going on and will only get worse, exponentially.

In my case it started with a kiss (from her, I had no idea she was even into me, but after that she admitted to have been sending DTF signals all over the place) and she is married.

Anyway, fast forward not long and he found out about the kiss, but nothing about a ton of other stuff that went on between us (no sex) and he has tried to get her to cut all ties with me, except of course we work in the office and basically couldn't avoid each other, even if we wanted to.

What I'm trying to get to is that despite his efforts to keep her away, she has always one upped him: -told her to never speak to me, she has kept on doing it. -told to never hang around me, she has kept on seeking me out. -asked to delete my number, she put me under a different contact. -logs into her e-mail account too snoop, she created a secondary one.

So, the fact that your wife hasn't stopped all and any possible contact with him (despite this work obligation BS) to me, being on the other side of this situation, SCREAMS pure BS and that she clearly truly doesn't give a fuck about you or your feelings, very much despite the lies she's spewing to you about love and such.

I say this because a normal person, who honestly did care about you the way you seem to care about her would first off never get into this situation, and second even if by some small slip-up, did do a fraction of what I get from your post here, they would feel like absolute shit and do everything in their power to show they regret it.

She's clearly not giving two fucks about contacting him (again, I cannot stress enough that I fucking doubt it has anything to do with work) while you're RIGHT FUCKING THERE, at home, about to go to bed.

So, you know what to do. If you don't, try to picture what you'd tell the husband of the girl who's trying to get with me, then copy paste yourself the message.