**UPDATE** I mercilessly bullied a kid in high school. We workout at the same gym now and he's the nicest human I've ever met.

I'll never see or hear from him again. The issue is these make amends things typically don't start off to make the victim feel better. It's because the abuser feels like crap. I was so caught of guard that I didn't really no what to say. Most people, though I'm starting to turn completely into an asshole, avoid conflict and we are taught to forgive people.

A letter saying sorry leaves the person time to process. If they want to write back they can but if they don't want to write they don't have to. Some things are better left alone also. Like what am I supposed to say? Oh hey! Thanks for putting me through hell. I sure do feel better you now feel bad about something!

He doesn't know how close I was to slaughtering him and a few other people. Truthfully the only reason I didn't murder/suicide him et al was because I was in some gun clubs and I didn't want gun owners to look bad. Maybe that's a stupid reason but whatever.

So grudge isn't the right word but that sort of thing fundamentally changes people. I would have been just fine never hearing from him.

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