Y'know, I was with someone that was better than me at everything once. He was kind of a jerk too. (For example, he was Japanese, and turned on such a pretty side around everyone else, but would belittle me in private; he would also do things like tell me my Japanese was wrong and meant sexual things when it wasn't and didn't for some weird reason. But I digress.)

I wonder if that's a coincidence.

(Disclaimer: I say your ex was a jerk from things you say in comments, and also the "you should study math!" when you suck at math, etc.)

Talented, smart, attractive, on and on and on, and it seems you never catch up.

But haven't you noticed something seems missing?

I don't know how to explain what I mean here, but like... they lack sincerity. The ability to really connect. It's like they use people as echo chambers of their own awesomeness. They're beautiful torches for drawing people close and dazzling them, but the fire never seems to emit warmth.

It's easy to feel inferior. But like someone mentioned in your first post, something intangible about you kept him there for four years. "Ah," you might think, "but he didn't love me!" Frankly I think the reason he didn't love you after all that time was because he loved himself too much to have room in his heart for you.

There's a lot to be said for having more of an ability to genuinely connect. You have fire, he has fireworks. There's a difference.

Probably I'm going to be downvoted because I sound like a bitter ex. ...Which I am. But not in the "I STILL LOVE YOU YOU ASSHAT!" way. I'm with someone and very happily so. It just still gets under my skin how peoplel can be so unabashedly jerk-like. I don't know if I make sense here.

Anyway. The way to move on is to take it day by day, doing what you like to do, and not comparing yourself to others, because people have things that can't be measured.