Update- My gf (20 F) always receives flirty messages (example below) from her guy friends showing direct interest in her, but she doesn't put down these advances. It makes me angry that these guys don't respect our relationship and it seems like she doesn't even care. What should I do (20 M)?

If you have a problem with the relationship talk to me, don't find a solution through someone else. Especially not through emotional infidelity.

I can't tell you how many posts I've read here where a simple line like that would have cut through so much BS to get to the root of the issue. Good job with that one.

How do I bring this up? Is it even worth it at this point?

Can you identify specifics that are making you still feel this way? Do you feel like she's still letting the behavior go on? Do you feel like she's checking out of your relationship? If everything is going 100% well since then, I might recommend chocking it up to her being 20 years old and not very good at communicating yet, but that the overall take away was that she changed the offending actions and is aware that it was her fault. You did say...

I told her that I think we should end the relationship then and there if that's her justification for her actions. She started crying even more and told me that she understands she was wrong and that she would change (taking action when guys flirted with her). I believe her.

So she almost got broken up with and had to change her ways to avoid that. Even if it wasn't verbalized as you'd have liked, as long as she has made those changes she did acknowledge that her actions were not ok and almost caused her to lose the relationship. I guess my advice would be to work harder to put your finger on exactly what's causing you to feel this way. Don't forget to look at yourself. You were wronged a bit, and that's going to cause some relationship doubts and maybe even resentment... even if she's being a good girlfriend now. Once you can identify the source of the feeling you'll be better armed to make a decision on how to handle it. I wouldn't bring it up again out of the blue after 4 months just to fish around for the cause. You're capable of figuring that out on your own.

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