Yeah, you are not treating him with any respect. It's clear that he is depressed.
"I am going out with some colleagues this weekend for a fun night, and my husband can stay home like a hermit."
Do you always talk about people like this? He is a human being, not a hermit. There is nothing wrong with being a shut in so long as your mental health is okay. You have been conditioned to believe that a particular lifestyle is appropriate for yourself. Therefore, you ostracize anyone who doesn't live the life that you do. Calling him pathetic is insensitive.
Heaven forbid a woman pays more than 50% of the bills. Heaven forbid YOU take care of your husband while he's in the abyss. You are a horrible person.