Update to my last post here from Friday

It's funny you mention this because I have thought he could maybe have BPD for ages. I have C-PSTD from childhood trauma, and it has a lot of BPD like symptoms. I've spent over a decade in therapy etc to get over it. Mine basically manifest in feeling really hot and cold, or feeling really bad suddenly over nothing (usually a trigger I didn't recognize). But in my teen years, and early 20s, I 100% was super BPD-esque. I would attach myself to a favorite person and be super intense, fight a lot, etc. However therapy has paid off dividends and I haven't done that for a good 7 or so years now, which coincides with growing up in general and leaving my abusive parent completely behind (we reunited briefly in college when he tried to pay for it).

He reminds me a lot of my old self, except he's SO confident. He just is so utterly confident in his reality. Like he could seriously tell me I was too broken to fit in this world and should just leave it and believe it--while he himself hadn't had any employment, was on a lot of different medications, and had severe issues. I'm not saying damaged people = bad, I'm just saying somehow he thought he wasn't damaged yet I was too damaged to LIVE, despite reality showing we're both damaged in our own ways (he isn't behaving like a real adult, I have a horrible childhood).

(He only told me this once, and again, this was the past 2 months where we've been having these non-stop micro fights [and sometimes BIG fights]).

If I said that to a person, I would immediately be sorry--or at least be unconfident. Fuck it, honestly, I would not say it. But you know what I mean. He instead is like 100% this is the Reality Now, You are Evil and just goes with it. To the ends of the Earth. And then a few days later you're great again, just don't be an evil bitch.

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