[UPDATE] A year ago, I [27F] broke up with my lying boyfriend [27M]. Today, I found out that everyone else was lying and he was being truthful.

Choosing wrong because you made the same choice anyone else would make

Yeah, no. Years ago, my coworker (who happened to be dating a guy from my then bf's group) got drunk and decided the time was nigh to tell my bf, in front of all of the guys, that I was cheating on him. He told her she was an idiot. She then told him about instances where I hung out with other guys. My bf told her he knew about them, because I told him everything (over shared, IMO, but thank god for that). She kept going on and on, talking shit about me. My bf called me, put me on speaker, and had me deal with her. We argued for a while - she kept turning the speaker off when she started losing the argument, my bf would grab the phone and put me back on speaker, repeat ad nauseam. Convo ended when I told her I was going to go over there and kick her ass. She responded in kind. We were grown women, mind you.

Apparently, his friend told his gf to stfu in front of everyone, and he apologized to my bf. My bf's other friends, however, decided she must be telling the truth and warned him against me. Probably because they knew her better (she dated a couple of them before and hung out with everyone, while I was new to the group and had my own friends).

This caused a rift. These were guys my bf grew up with and would've given his life for. But he chose me. Didn't even let what they said bother him. It's been almost a decade, we're now married with a 2 year old and another on the way, and we couldn't be happier.

The point in my story? You can bet your sweet ass that if he chose to listen to his friends and broke up with me, then came crawling back after finding out they were lying, I would not be so forgiving as OP's bf. I wouldn't take him back. Because to me, that's a kind of betrayal. I don't think I'd go so far as to get revenge on him or his friends, but it wouldn't be beneath me to try to get back at my ex-coworker.

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