Using 23andme as a Paternity Test?

The aunt has complained especially to my grandma, my mom and, her other siblings, my other uncles, why we haven't acknowledged the kid, and pampered him with gifts and shown up to his birthdays etc. We've flat out told her, we don't believe we're related to him. So she wants validation. We've told her the cost: do a DNA test.

Recently, one of my closer first cousins had a daughter in LA. My mom and I drove the three hours, just to show our support, and I saw her just post-birth, held the kid, and immediately felt a bond with her, and of course brought her gifts. Because of Facebook, my aunt with the dubious lovechild saw this, and became even more incensed, saying we're making preferential differences, and that we're assholes. It's fine, if we're assholes, but she's also getting mad at my grandma, and so that's more sensitive charge against someone who's, like, 80 years old.

Sorry, I'm airing out some of my family's dirty laundry. But it seems like you want to know why we're acting in the way we are. I'm just trying to give you the insight. But if I'm still an asshole, then I don't really deny it. Honestly, if the kid is not my cousin's, and I could help him realize that, then I feel like I would be doing a good deed. Waiting until the kid turns 18, like someone suggested, would be too late.

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