Plenty of guys need an intellectual or emotional connection, or will after some post-nut clarity. Guys have a higher spontaneous sex drive, but if you’re having enough sex to satisfy the biological part (and don’t need sex to prop up fragile self-esteem), then it’s not uncommon to find yourself wanting more out of sex. You’re not less manly for it. In my dating heyday I slept with a lot of women, but after sleeping with 4 different women in 3 days I actually felt kind of gross about it. Sex is great but don’t spend time on sex if it’s not building a connection. When you find a powerful connection, you’ll regret every minute you wasted not looking for it.