I didn't say I was offended; merely that I thought the word choice was ill-considered. Those things are not the same. I understand your point totally anyway and if the "gross" comment had come sooner, when the person was talking about their own experience, then I wouldn't have said anything at all about it. But instead, it came when they were talking about OP directly to OP. So I suppose it would be fair to say that the word choice was OK, but their point would have been better understood as being about them had the word come sooner.

Helping people make their (already very respectful) posts even slightly more respectful isn't shitty and I'll do it no matter what you say or think. In fact you're trying to do the same thing to me, just with different values behind it (and so declarative!). Plus, my point was between me and the commenter, so by your own judgement it's nothing to do with you. Stop being offended by your perception of other people's offences. Learn to understand that not everything is addressed to you.