Virgin here...

I'm a 35 year old "virgin" and I'm dating a 33 year old "virgin." Neither of us are losers or weirdos - I'd say we are both attractive, have outgoing personalities, a lot of friends and most people would be shocked to learn we've never had sex with another person (because of the stigma that there must be something "wrong" with you if you've never had sex by a certain age). The thing is, we've just never wanted to be intimate with men our entire lives, so we didn't. And we didn't consider we were lesbians until recently. I see virginity as a construct and was invented as a way to shame women into thinking they "owed" men their body. What you do with your own body is your business. And if people think it's "weird" that you haven't wanted to share it with anyone, then that's their problem and I'd say those aren't your people.

As far as online dating goes, it's tricky. I'd suggest just taking your time with it. If you need to take things slow when it comes to physical intimacy or just the relationship in general, communicate that early. You may be demisexual, which requires an emotional connection to form an attraction. That does make online dating really hard especially in the current dating culture where sex usually comes in the early stages. But it's doable! And you'll find someone who you connect with either online or off.

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