Why is virginity and sex outside of marriage such a big deal?

Yeah, I'm not trying to say that you're doing something bad, let alone intentionally, just that if you ever pray something like that or profess it, you're undoubtedly going to influence someone, and you really should know what the Bible says about it and stand firm in that.

I'll share but don't quote me on it, I'll probably edit it out later.

I was very close with a guy friend and nothing happened because he was not a Christian and I did not want to have sex before marriage. I loved him very much and I think he felt the same way for me... he wasn't great at expressing his emotions but for years. Eventually we abruptly ended our friendship. It hurt like a hole in the heart because I lost someone who I loved in poor circumstances. I went to a new Church around the same time and asked for prayer in the ministry time. Someone prayed to God to 'break any soul ties' between he and I. I looked it up after and was first slightly offended that they assumed I had slept with him, as that's the general connotation of soul ties, sex cleaves you not just in flesh but in spirit, and you are one spiritually with that person, tied to them and by extension anyone else who they've slept with who they are still tied to, allowing for their sin and everyone else's sin and 'bad spirits' to travel into your life and essentially haunt you. I was also freaked out by this whole concept. I'd never read anything in the Bible about it, and I went on to research it and found nothing of substance. Other friends have told me that they've had healing prayer for soul ties to be broken and it's worked, but honestly, God's healing of emotional pain is Biblical, the idea that we are linked by some wishy washy supernatural flow of negative energy to anyone who we slept with or loved is not.

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