Life’s a work in progress. Also everybody has a different libido. And libidos can fluctuate and there are many factors that impact our libido. It’s okay to not have sexual impulses. Also our moods and what medication/drugs we use impact our sex drive - it more typically depletes it unfortunately.

Also sex is really a skill you learn. If you haven’t had the chance to practice it, it’s hard to be good at it. Some people have sex and they’re not good at it LOL - the reason being they don’t listen or communicate well with their partner xD Sex is so much more than intercourse. It’s about communicating with your partner, it’s about listening to your partner. Communication and listening skills are imo essential precursors to having good sex. That is something that comes with time. Being able to form a connection with someone prior to having sex indefinitely increases the experience. Doing one-night stands or flings do not match the sex that is experienced when you feel emotionally connected with someone. The physical and emotional connectedness together is truly worthwhile.

I guess my point is, it’s okay if you haven’t had sex yet. It’s okay if you don’t feel like having it either. It doesn’t measure/reflect how you are as a person. Do you really want to go around having meaningless sex? Or would you rather have it when you feel like it’s with a good person to share that experience with? The former can be quite demoralizing in the long run. The latter is much more worthwhile because it gives you an opportunity to build on for a relationship or at lease enhance the experience.

I also don’t see there being any wrong with hiring for the service- honestly if they know what they’re doing, it would be a good learning experience.