WANTED: Positive Pregnancy Stories after MC

I found the book "Joy at the End of the Rainbow" by Amanda Ross-White really helpful for calming my nerves. It's kind of like a what to expect when youre expecting after loss.

I found a mantra, I believe it was on here, that really helped me focus -- "Today, I am pregnant". You don't know and can't control what happens tomorrow but today you are pregnant and that's all you can know.

I had a 10w BO the pregnancy after my 9w MMC. I then had a successful pregnancy after that, and I kept setting milestones for myself on when I wouldn't be anxious anymore and honestly they came and went and they didn't make me feel better. 10 weeks - time to beat. 15 weeks - find out the sex. 24 weeks - viability. Nothing, none of these milestones brought me the calmness I hung my hopes on. I don't think I took a full breath until she was born. I found things that helped -- that book, that mantra, acupuncture, yoga, prenatal massage -- but I do wonder now if a therapist specializing in pregnancy loss (I started seeing one last month after an ectopic in October) would have been a helpful resource to navigate the intense feelings that come with loss and the intertwined grief and joy with pregnancy after loss.

/r/PregnancyAfterLoss Thread