Most of what I’ll say is probably most of what we were told/did with your first. It’s not super easy going to 2 obviously, but honestly I found that the only bad part was sleep, but my toddler sleeps very well so it was just dealing with a baby at night and not battling 2 of them. How does your 2 year old sleep? Do you have help overnight?
There are always going to be little hurdles to overcome, you’ll feel like it’s never ending, then one thing will get better and another pops up. Just remember there’s an end, it’ll all be ok. Remind yourself it’s all temporary.
Don’t be afraid to tell your toddler to wait, but kindly, it’s easy to be snappy when we’re sleep deprived, as my husband will tell you lol. Also, a good piece of advice I got is to help your toddler feel included, and listened to, sometimes I say “hold on baby, toddler was talking first” or “hang on baby, toddler needs me for a minute” so it’s not always just about the baby to him. Remember it’s ok to put kids in a safe space and step a way for a moment if we are feeling overwhelmed. And speak to your doctor if you feel a bit wrong to yourself, emotionally or physically. I didn’t fall in love with my 2nd baby until a week or so after she came home so don’t pressure yourself to feel insane over the top magical about it.
The dishes can wait, even if it’s just a few hours until you feel more human. You might want to manage your expectations depending on what you’re used to in terms of showering and making meals and stuff lol. I would pop my baby in the bouncer, my toddler in front of Ms. Rachel or Bluey and shower quickly playing peakaboo with the curtain with baby. Those people who came to meet your first baby and offer “help” who ended up just holding the baby for 85 hours- maybe you feel more confident asking them to load the dishwasher? Vacuum? Grab some takeout? Its ok to eat beans on toast for a week, and have your hair in a messy bun with the same jumper, if it means you’re all fed, clothed and warm :) And this community is great, I got a lot of good advice here.