You wasted my fucking time.

I went through this too. It's unbelievable how much damage it's done to my self-esteem, confidence and general belief in myself. 5 months later, I'm still crying, hurting, coming undone over this shit. It's just killed my vibe, completely.

There are things we can do to make this easier.

For starters: try not to think in black and white terms. It doesn't do you any favours.

It's not true they didn't love you. Maybe they weren't IN love with you but they did love you on some level. They stayed with you because, for whatever reason(s), they were ambivalent about leaving. It's likely they cared for you and didn't want to hurt you, and there must have been good things about being with you they were afraid to give up. The logic is broken and hurtful, but people aren't perfect. We just do what we think is right at the time. Your time wasn't wasted. Things just didn't go the way you wanted or expected, and now you're stuck with a burden and struggle you never agreed to taking on. It's a setback and it's shit, but it's part of some bigger thing that will make sense with time.

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