Wedding planning stress induced by father sent me to the ER yesterday

Is he paying for anything wedding related? I think if he isn't you can and should stop talking to him except to share any important logistical details. You have made your decision, you shared your reasoning, you offered yourself as an alibi, and you offered a compromise. If he doesn't want to accept that, he doesn't have to, but you don't have to continue to subjecting yourself to any harassment from him.

Also depending on your relationship with your grandparents perhaps you could call them directly or write them a letter? It's entirely possiblel that your dad cares about this much more than your grandparents do, and he will have absolutely no leg to stand on once you've made an agreement with them.

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