Calmness and healing are very different things that you've conflated in your criticism.

People need much more than time to heal in some cases. But time is necessary either way and you cannot heal unless you are calm. You cannot reason with someone who isn't calm. So if you indeed have a traumatic stress disorder, no therapy or mode changes will help unless you've first calmed down. Anything less is psychosis due to that stress and if it wasn't resolved on its own, medication would be necessary.

And I'm sorry but if you are stuck in a self loathing loop your own thoughts NEED to be suppressed and changed.

No shit, and if you think you're exceptional to that observation, you're dead wrong. You can 100% live your life convincing yourself that none of your thoughts need to be changed and ignorance is bliss so you'll never know what you're fucking up for yourself.

You've touched up on the bottom tier of philosophy of the self and you've reached nothing. You should read up, it might be transformative. You won't though. You've convinced yourself you have it all figured out.