Weekly Advice Thread (08/19-08/25)

In my experience, the worst part about being a short male is how childish you look. maybe if you are lucky and you can grow a beard, then this won't be as much of a problem. I'm not so lucky with that, because I cannot grow a beard.

I am 5'5" and 22 years old. unfortunately, even though I have been lifting weights for 3 years and have gotten really physically fit (I'm in the Navy), I still look at most like an overgrown teenager. I don't really feel masculine, and it's a shame because that is what many girls like in a man.

And it's not just with relationships either. I have found in my experience that I have to give it 110% if I want to be treated with the same level of respect as my taller counterparts. And even that is not guaranteed.

With women it's a bit different. I am friends with women but a lot of them see me as "safe". A benefit of that is that it is easier for me to befriend women, but I'm not sexually attractive enough to be anything more than a friend. I have had many girls tell me countless times that I'd be perfect if I were taller.

Honestly at this stage of my life I don't know what to do. My career as well makes it really hard to get to know women, as I rarely see any. It feels like a lost cause here. I just wish I looked more like a man and less like a teenager. All that takes is half a foot of height. That would help my chances a ton.

/r/IncelTears Thread