Weekly Advice Thread (10/29-11/4)

I’m 26 and I’ve never been on a date or even met a girl who seems interested in me, is it because of my looks?


I have Asperger’s and I think I look like an anti-social loser, like if someone met me they could peg me as an “incel” type. When I try to “put myself out there” I come off as a creepy, annoying loser and a try hard partly because I’m an autistic person trying to be normal and partly because of my looks. I think if I tried to talk to a woman I like she'd realize right off the bat I'm totally hopeless and have no chance with any women.

In college when I’d actually meet women I’d develop crushes on cute “normal” girls and it was depressing for me because there was nothing I could do about it and if they got any hints that I like them they’d think I’m a creep and a loser. I don't blame women for not wanting to date me because I wouldn't date someone I find unattractive so it would be hypocritical (and just stupid) to feel that women are obligated to "look past my looks" or whatever. I’m currently living at home and working a shit job so I don’t even bother with dating right now but once I get the rest of my life together I’m worried I still won’t have a chance. I feel deeply uncomfortable around women because I’m attracted to them but I feel like they view me with contempt. How do I deal with this? I don’t think there’s any way I’ll ever get to be intimate with someone I like.

/r/IncelTears Thread