Me (46) and my girlfriend (38) have been together for seven months we are a different people. I'm the idyllic result of two parents who stayed married(44yrs) until my dad died. My parents also had four kids as I'm the oldest. She's the result of parents who shouldn't have had kids, divorced after she was born and she's an only child. I currently work in retail and have a set schedule so my free time is my own. She's a teacher (college) and teaches theater and interpersonal communications. During her free time she's a sponsor for student theater. The last semester she had a full class load and was stage managing a play for a friend in the program so her time was mostly devoted to those activities. I understood the constraints on her time and that I wouldn't always be able to see her. We managed to see each other every couple of weeks.
The semester ended and she went on a two week break before starting summer classes. We spent Memorial Day together going out to eat and just hanging out it felt really good to me. We talked about where we were as far as the two of us whether we were "dating" or in a "relationship." I voiced my opinion and said that I'm interested in the latter and believe that we should continue. I went home feeling that we'd had a good discussion and that we'd continue the relationship despite being two different people. The following week she tells me that she's experiencing " female issues" with her health and needs to relax and get better as we were to go to a concert on Saturday. She felt somewhat better by then and we went to the concert enjoyed it a lot. I took her home and we sat on the couch talking. She mentioned that she was still having some issues with her health and if I wanted to stay there'd be no "extra curricular" activities told her I understood and started to go home. I added that my going home wasn't because there wouldn't be any activity that I understood she needed rest.
Called her the next day or so and got voicemail left a message and didn't her back from her until early morning via text. She'd been having trouble with her phone and she wanted to have a couple of " no people " days again i understand how sometimes a person want's to have some alone time. Although, this kind of upset me because I feel that I'm more than just another person.
I continued to give her space for the next few days then I get a text she'd gone to the zoo with a good female friend who I've met and am glad she has.
I ask her if she'd accompany me to a Shakespeare festival Saturday said she'd see how she feels. I get a text on Saturday saying she wasn't up to the festival and would have to take a rain check. Again, i understood and mentioned that my brother was going to go along and he wasn't feeling well either. I've not heard back from her since sending the text and I feel that she's not been into me as much as she was at first but doesn't want to be confrontational about continuing the relationship.
My brain says don't contact her let her contact you as I've done in the past. My heart says call her try to meet and talk too her about what's going on.
Any advice is appreciated and anyone can ask me for advice too. Thanks