Weekly Relationship Check-In and Support Thread

Ok here’s my story. It all started 5 years ago. Me and this girl started working together at the same company. I’m white and she’s black. She had a boyfriend at the time but we started flirting with each other. I asked her if she wants me to make a move on her and she said no because she has a boyfriend and it won’t be fair to him. But she also said that she thinks I’m hot. One week later she breaks up with her boyfriend and she come tells me this. I then ask her out on a date and she says she can’t. I ask her again later and I get the same response. After this we go on at work like nothing happened. Ignore each other then flirt again. And then ignore each other. And she keeps playing these “games”. End of the year we have a function and she hangs out with some other guy and she ignores me the whole day. We then have a long holiday where we don’t chat to each other. Next year she’s all chatty and friendly. We are then in talking terms. But after a while the flirting starts again. I then text her asking if she wants to have a one-night-stand (no sex just kissing). She says she doesn’t know and that she usually gets emotional with things like that. Next day at work we talk about it and we decide it’s a yes. So that evening we meet and we make out. (just kissing). Next day she says she still wants to talk to me and I say ok. Never happened. Next two days she’s absent from work. By this time we’re halfway through the year and we have another holiday. And again we don’t keep contact. After the holiday she tells me she has a boyfriend. And I pretend that I’m ok with everything. Sometime later she comes to me asking me what she should wear to the music gig and that she’s going with her boyfriend. I also find out she has been offered another job at a company starting the next year. So for the next 4 months or so I just ignore her and she’s all friendly. So at the end of the year two days before the holiday and her second last day at work I write her an explicit sexual letter about how it would be if me and her would have sex and what I would do to her ect……. And with that letter I also bought her a pair of red panties. Next day she says thank you and gives me a big hug. Next year (now the 3rd year) she phones me and tells me how much she’s enjoying it at her new work and that I should come visit her. A few days after that I text her and tell her that I don’t want to be her friend and that I want her. I then ask her to break up with her boyfriend but she says no. Then about 4 months pass and I text her saying we can be friends. And we chat about general stuff (work ect….) And this goes on until the end of the year. Next year (4th year) I phone her and ask her if I can come visit her and she says no cause she has other plans. Then we continue texting and she asks me to send her a pic. And I ask her with or without clothes and she says without clothes. And then we start talking dirty. Next day I send her a video of me doing a stripshow and I tell her to come to my place cause I want her. She says no cause she’s at her boyfriend’s place. A few days pass and I decide to do something I regret. I buy her a vibrator and porn movie, wrap it up, went to her home late at night and placed it at her front door. I then texted her and told her. She texts me back and says that she got the gift but she’s shocked that I came to her home. She then says that I should not do that again or I’ll regret it. I then apologized. Next day she blocks me on whatsapp and she’s been doing this now for the past year and 2 months. Now and then I text her to apologize and tell her that I miss her. (I’ve done this about 4 times but no response) . But now recently she asked one of my workbuddies to ask me if I’m married and that she sends her regards. I also know that she has broken up with her boyfriend. But she’s still blocking me on whatsapp. So what should I do? Don’t tell me to move on. Don’t tell me that I’m stalking her. I don’t care if the police locks me up. Don’t tell me that this girl has issues cause I don’t care. I want her.

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