My [27M] boyfriend and I [27F] are going through a rough patch. We have been together almost 6 years, a very long time. We have graduated college while together, and struggled to find jobs. 2 years ago we became long distance when we had no other choice but to move back in with parents. Ever since, I have had a clear finish line for us, marriage. He does not deal well with his feelings or expressing them, but I thought he felt the same way. Come to find out, he is absolutely terrified of marriage. To the point that he says he gets very nervous at the thought of marriage. Now, I have put alot into this relationship. Everything. It's not always been easy, but I have never ever once felt like breaking up was the answer. I have always looked at it as a team, and we need to work together in supporting each other through hard times. He is so stressed out by the fact that I KNOW I want to be married as soon as possible, that he thinks the solution is to break up, because he's afraid he might not be ready for marriage for maybe two years. This is where two people who love each other compromise. I am capable of backing up what I want, and changing my goals. I love him and want to be with him. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me, which I have never had a reason to doubt. This has become a major issue that makes me feel like we are on the verge of breaking up, when all I want to do is work with him on these issues. He has committed to going to therapy, but living in different cities, we will not be able to go as a couple. Is this over? Am I giving too much of myself to him?