I've studied the cognitive functions until I felt like I was going crazy... but it's hard to assign my own internal thought processes clearly to the cognitive functions.

I was hoping I could get some help picking cognitive functions out from my behavior (I previously tried r/MbtiTypeMe under a different account, but they typed me pretty much based off of MBTI stereotypes which wasn't very helpful to me), and subsequently with my typing.

• Career/ambitions:
  • I'm a software engineer (25F), but I chose my career based on stability and practicality (I love creative writing, but you can't exactly rely on it for a consistent livable income...). I don't love my job currently, and my end goal is to be some type of team lead or manager.
  • I'm a big picture person, and the detail of SE feels like drudgery to me. I love working with complex systems at a high level, and am often tapped to come up with organizational processes for our whole team to use (probably sounds boring but I really enjoy it). I think I'm good at picking holes in assumptions/logic that others don't see, and communicating ideas that others struggle with. I'd rather devise a master plan for someone else to execute than be the one in the details executing someone else's plan.
  • I enjoy assuming leadership positions in areas I feel competent in. Although I am pretty quiet and private at work, I find myself to be friendly and professional, and am unafraid of giving presentations if I'm well-prepared.
  • I can be a perfectionist with some things, but I firmly believe that done is better than perfect.
• Thought processes:
  • Again, I'm a huge big picture person.
  • I joke that I'm seldom surprised, but it's true. I feel like my mind automatically predicts every possible future in a given situation and ranks them in my mind, subconsciously giving me a conglomeration/average prediction to let me prepare for what's going to happen.
  • I'm good at taking an immense amount on information and coming up with an overarching summary/so-what that cuts to the heart of things.
  • I absolutely live in my head, I'm a massive overthinker who analyzes everything.
  • I'm good at brainstorming, but I'm also great at cutting straight to the point.
• Emotions:
  • I'm guilty of "thinking my feelings". At the same time I'm pretty introspective, so I spend a lot of time examining my own emotions and trying to make sure they're healthy. I don't often make decisions based on my feelings, and have a lifetime of evidence to back that up.
  • I can be empathetic, but my empathy is usually intellectual if that makes sense. I don't tend to feel the emotions of others. I have a lot of trouble sharing what I'm feeling with others.
  • I've always felt like I was very different than other people, and impossible to understand (I'm an enneagram 4w3--I know it's a rare typing with xNTx MBTI, but I am certain of it. I'm not as sappy as your typical four, but the rest of the traits are there.)
• Socially/Lifestyle:
  • I'm usually not afraid of approaching people before they approach me, if I want something. Otherwise, I can be pretty passive.
  • I'm socially confident most of the time, but it's a learned skill (over a childhood as a bookworm homeschooled kid who learned social behaviors by observation like some kind of martian studying humanity). I feel like I have a script to every social interaction in my mind. It's a game to me, knowing the right things to say, and I think of it very strategically. All that aside, people say I generally come off very warm and friendly in social situations. I tend to get annoyed when people have poor communication skills or cannot keep the baseline social status quo among a group of coworkers/acquaintances. (I know this sounds harsh, but I think if I can learn the social script so can anyone else... it's logically the most beneficial for everyone 99% of the time to be nice to people and not rock the boat too much)
  • If you didn't know me very well, you'd probably assume I'm an extrovert (I worked in a sales job for the last several years before going into software, and while it absolutely burnt me out it taught me how to talk to literally anyone). I don't enjoy parties unless it's a group of people I know very well.
  • I have a few close friends (an INTP and an ENTJ, my best friends growing up were an INFP and an ENFP). I have been going crazy during COVID not being able to talk to anyone outside of my immediate family.
  • I talk a lot and I'm quite goofy if I'm around people I'm comfortable with. Otherwise I'm warm and polite, sticking to the social script while trying not to share much about myself. I do like to hang out with friends every couple of weeks or so. I get drained if I have to talk all day or be around people actively socializing all day, and need quiet time afterwards.
  • If you met me you'd probably think I was a nice and friendly person. I'm internally quite snarky, but I keep it to myself.
  • I'm usually not too afraid of confrontation when needed, but I try to do it very tactfully (side note: I don't like debates/arguing)
• Misc:
  • I'm a big planner. Two friends (INTP, INFP) wanted to take a spontaneous road trip with me, but I spent the next 48 hours coming up with a detailed itinerary of activities for us to do (taking into account weather and dietary restrictions). I hate uncertainty and am trying to learn to become at peace with it. I'm 25, and it drives me nuts that for the first time in my life I don't have a concrete 5-year plan I can methodically execute. I'm the one to organize surprise parties for friends, run a pandemic book club, etc. I'm usually the catalyst/organizer/mastermind behind these things. I don't necessarily enjoy it, but I don't trust anyone else to do the job as well, so... (:
  • I get really discouraged if I'm working on a task but there's no tangible progress or sense of accomplishment... I've been teaching myself some programming languages on the side and if I don't record exactly what I've been doing and for how long, I get really down on myself and start to spiral about how unproductive I've been. I'm always ready to move on to the next thing, and sometimes I can become frustrated and rush tasks.
  • I pride myself in being a well-rounded person with multiple interests. I have tons of interests and hobbies I'd love to dive into (if there was infinite time in the day I'd love to try almost everything), but I try to stick with a few main ones for the purposes of practicality/so I can actually get things done
  • I'm very clumsy and forgetful (I suspect I have undiagnosed ADHD, however). If I go grocery shopping and don't write every single thing down, I will miss things. I can forget about eating / sleeping if I'm enthralled enough by something I'm doing. I oftenforget where I put things or have trouble coming up with the perfect organizational system for my things. I put bluetooth trackers on everything important I own for this reason, lol.
  • Family: was raised by ISTP and ISFJ parents. Sibling is an ISTJ (who is currently testing as an INTJ because some companies only hire the ~iNtj MaStEr RaCe~, annoying but true story). ISFJ and ISTJ make me look like an outgoing life of the party type by comparison (which compared to ESFJ, ENFP, etc I've met in real life that is laughable). I feel very goofy/clumsy/forgetful compared to those two. I don't often troll, but I do troll ISTJ often (and sometimes ISFJ).
  • I'm an ENFJ/ENFP/INFP magnet. For some reason, they love me and I find them everywhere, particularly ENFPs.

Apologies for the wall of text... I hope the bullet points rendered this a bit more digestible. If you can type me based on this, let me know. I really am stuck at the moment.