Weekly Vents & Successes

Do couples in a long term relationship text when they’re apart? For context Im a F early 20s and I live with my bf for a few year and with quarantine there hasn’t been much to do so it’s been boring and I feel kind of disconnected in the relationship. We dont really have something we like to do at home together so we each do our own things. He went away for the weekend with friends and I texted him here and there and he doesn’t reply often if at all. So that made me upset and I tried talking about it which ended in an argument. With the stress of school I broke down and admitted to not feeling well mentally. I thought I was being vulnerable and let him know that I need help with better living habits and his support to be in a good head space, admitted to having a lot of yk, depressed and dark thoughts. He said he understands and then we had another small argument today because he ignored my text last night and didn’t tell me his change in plans(when he’s coming home). I wasn’t mad just wanted him to understand why it hurts my feels when he don’t keep me updated on certain things. But he always just brushes me off or gets annoyed at me for having a problem with the fact. When we’re apart our texting habits are usually like this and I don’t say anything until it really bothers me. It wasn’t like this when we first met and it’s why I fell in love with him. Today after a day of back and forth, me wanting him to see how I’m perceiving things and him telling me I’m blowing things out of proportion, he said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore because my mental health is affecting his. I know I’m a really flawed individual and I want to improve on my short comings. Can I get some advices from people in a long term relationship? Do couples have good texting habits when they’re apart? Im a firm believer that if you love a person, they’re in your thoughts and it comes naturally. Am I just being over dramatic? Wish I could attach the screenshot of what he just said to me but it makes me ugly cry ahaha. This just went down so some advice on what to do would be.. really neat :( don’t know why I broke down, maybe I’m hormonal I been crying a lot, but everything has been really stressful and I thought it would help explain to him why it was so important to me that I felt like he’s there for me. Maybe it’s the mental illness, maybe I’m just toxic and clingy, seeking some advice on how to respond also :(

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