I had sent him this in a series of texts the following day, each to which he replied reiterating what he had already said and trying to defend his actions. Pretty much, I'm sorry you were offended by, or I'm sorry if it SEEMED like... I just really thought it was a cop out and would've been better to just apologise, or say nothing. These were the texts:

You always want to argue with people and can't accept being wrong, even when it goes too far or hurts people. Words have impact just as actions have consequences. It's so much more than you lifting that girl's top without her consent (although we all know that it was a shitty thing you did.) It's you trying to justify why you did it and lessen your behaviour. It's you placing yourself at the centre of that trying to make yourself out as a victim, rather than that woman who was the actual victim in that situation.

It's you not being accountable for your actions. It's you using alcohol as an excuse. It's despite me telling you I have been sexually abused in the past you still persisting and trying to argue why it's okay, or "not as bad as a rapist doing the same thing." It's saying I don't take harrassment towards men as serious as harrassment towards women, which is complete and utter bullshit. I think it is disgusting for anyone to be sexually harrassed, assaulted or molested no matter who they are because I have been through it myself and would never want someone to go through it.

It's you trying to minimise harrassment/assault by claiming someone touching another person's hand without their consent will lead to them being falsely accused of rape. Even if you yourself have been sexually harrassed in the gay community, that doesn't minimise what you did, and absolutely does not lessen everything you said last night.