Another two cents. A child is going to stay forever. And once you have children, it will be a life around them. If you are ready to live your life for your child, go for it. It will be a while until you get hold of your life, solely. Also, I was on a fence once. Someone I know had a baby right around that time. It was painful to see my female friend occupied 24x7 with the baby while the male friend was traveling for work all over. It was may be a given that she has to manage the baby (because she didn’t work at the time) and he will earn money. For reference, I am talking about a couple who are graduate architects. I can only think of their relationship getting distant....