Cate's story really speaks to me. I was in a violent, traumatic household where one parent would move out when they got in a fight and the other had diabetes and that was so hard to control she could have died many times if someone didn't happen to come home and find her before it was too late.

My worst fear is that the one person I love and and trust and rely on for support, asks for a separation. I think that would take away my reason to even try. It would feed into the abandonment issues. It would reinforce my anxiety and feeling like something bad is going to happen and my world is going to fall apart again. It would make my depression so much worse because I already feel like I'm not worth my husband and just a burden to everyone around me, that I can't do anything right even when I'm trying so hard to pull myself back up and be 'normal' again.

Letting people figure out things on there own and giving them a life changing ultimatum may work for some but I don't know how well it would work for someone with the kind of mental illness she has. She is trying to get help, she's not just sitting around her house and making everyone else take care of everything. She is in a facility doing some really hard work trying to work through her problems so she can be a good wife and mother. It's not like she is spending the time at a spa where they are waiting on her. In those places they make you get on a routine, go to classes and therepy, make you get up at a certain time and shower and wash your own clothes at least, some have you do cooking and cleaning too.