I went around college hitting on girls, and I went over the line multiple times. Did I commit sexual assault/sexual harassment? I feel disgusting/ashamed and can't shake this feeling that no matter how much I try to change, I won't escape my past [Tough Love]

Dude...there's some "bad" behavior there. Not as much as you might think though. What you do have going for you is that you freely admit and accept your issues, and question yourself and your actions.

However. What you're experiencing is what is called "rape culture." Yes, rape and sexual harassment is bad. And you've pointed out a couple things that are harassing. But these women that reciprocate, and then go claim otherwise? That's this new age culture. You're being used as a scapegoat, probably after the first gal that spread it around that you were "harassing" her. Which if anyone remembers the telephone game, knows that words get distorted when it spreads a ways away. Which then becomes easier for women to just use you either as a way to pass off their errant behavior or to turn you down without having to talk to you. My advice to you. Is tone it down. Ignore the "pick up" videos. And focus on your studies. If you keep trying with these women, you're just gonna wind up setting yourself up for a world of hurt. Because if your reputation gets any worse, the first gal that ends up legitimately assaulted and reports it (which is rare in college but does happen, the reporting i mean) who do you think the police will question first? And who do you think everyone will blame, even without evidence?

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