Were you lucky in the "genetic lottery"? Why? Why not?

It sucks you feel low about yourself. I won't give you any 'bet you're beautiful on the inside' crap but consider this: people notice fewer 'flaws' than you think, and society gives a pretty unrealistic baseline of attractiveness. Things like body hair, for example, I have never ever noticed on a bloke. My husband is really self conscious about his but if anything, I like it. I don't often notice a guy's height either - and even if a woman does, fuck, there are a lot of women who are also short. I have seen my share of dicks and I am really turned off by large ones. I seriously think the idea of a large penis being 'better' has become a sort of social assumption. Penis shame is in my opinion mostly in guys' heads. I have never looked at a dick and really reacted to the size - they all look like a shrivelled rubber chicken to me. I am also one of many women with a retroverted uterus, so find a large penis uncomfortable. Most women can't orgasm through fucking alone anyway so if you're in the sack, just make damn sure you're an attentive lover and I think you'll be fine. Also, I find baldness attractive.

I think we should assume there are many women like me. In terms of looks, the majority of people are 'average' so try not to downgrade yourself, or even limit your confidence and potential future happiness. It is lack of confidence and unrealistic expectations of oneself that I firmly believe prevents many otherwise great people from finding partners/ being generally happy with their appearance. If you want to spend your life with someone the right person - and these people DO exist - will not give a fuck about anything on your list because they will be own over by your personality. Be caring, selfless, happy, kind, hard working, and value yourself above all. Stand in front of a mirror right now and tell yourself you are fucking awesome, and do your best to believe it.

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