I feel like the lack of nuance in this situation is the most maddening part about it. Like yeah the dude was a shitbag! It wasn’t just ghosting he sent unsolicited dick pics, and promised exclusivity when he didn’t mean it.

It doesn’t warrant his life being ruined, but it’s a shitty thing to do and it’s weird to do this “them’s the rules” thing because people don’t like having their time wasted? I think when you fuck around to that scale, you don’t really get to control the fact that people find out. Or the fact that they’re allowed to talk about their shitty experiences with you. I don’t get how this is a Man vs. Woman thing, when it is simply an issue of respect. It’d be disrespectful if the genders were reversed too!

At the same time it is psychotic to take it into your hands and try to dox and ruin this guy’s life. This should have no bearing on his job, or his overall quality of life. Yeah the dude’s an asshole and should probably have some egg on his face but that’s about it.